My staple friend, wherefore art thou?

25 Feb

These day, I am getting more out of reach to my friends. Of course they don’t look actually like they are worth much but they mean to me whenever I am with them, and they’re worth something in saddest times. One of them said last week that I had been throwing myself away (diverting myself, that is). She said about many things I did without their knowing (like changing my mobile number).

But it has never been necessary for me to lay hands on the subject of friendship. I don’t need to be with them most of the times to check their latest fuss, to update myself, or to make myself an immediate sponge of their drama. All I have to do is to wait for some nice invitation, go right off into their plans, and let the moment evanesce after a couple of beer.

This morning I received a message saying, “My staple friend, wherefore art thou?” That instance I was looking at a chair (I often sit in during my yosi breaks) while thinking of something I could reply to her. But instead of making a quick reply, I went on thinking upon the presence of the chair, so bent I was that I was hooked up to its solitary.

I think a chair by itself in any place will look quite alone. To prove this, I’ll use photographer Marco Prete’s minimalism shot of a chair by the lake. The chair is all by itself. It looks bleak in its complete aloneness. If it weren’t a chair, you might almost think that it was lonely. It is an unoccupied chair. Unlike a table in a park on which one can paint a picture or arrange his things or pile books or leave a stranger’s note, a chair needs someone sitting in it and has no other utility. There isn’t much you can do with a chair. It just haunts the field or the room it is in.

I don’t know why I inserted the image of a chair. Probably, I feel like one, the one that is mounted and always waiting for someone to make use of me so I can function as right as I am intended to be. I know my relationship to my friends has been loose and I might be haunting them on times I turned down their invitations or for my intentionally so-so approaches to their asking.

But at least, haunting them by my absence accrues character. That makes me the one who’s badly missed.


33 Responses to “My staple friend, wherefore art thou?”

  1. yvarro February 25, 2010 at 5:44 pm #

    hey.. *sigh.. πŸ˜€ … “once a friend, will always be a friend, that’s what I learned Last January 26, 2010, nung nagkaroon kami ng kontingmis understanding ng isang napakalapit na kaibigan.. hehe.. mahirap pag pagin ang isang malapit na kaibigan.. πŸ˜€ talagang kakapit at kakapit parin ito sa iyo.. πŸ˜€ kundi man sa isip.. siguro kakapit sila sa puso mo.. πŸ˜€ I’m so bless na meron akong mga kaibigang tulad nila..

    Hey! January 26, 2010 di pala ang birthday ng blog ko! Which means.. isang buwan na ang bahay ko! hahaha!!!

    And speaking of friend..OPS, may bago akong friend dito sa wordpress… kilalanin mo naman siya, at i welcome mo sa wordpress:

    heres his site:

    • Suckingbird Keller February 25, 2010 at 5:48 pm #

      baka framing mo na naman to, baka other account mo yan. hahaha.

      • yvarro February 25, 2010 at 5:51 pm #

        how’d you know?… hinde.. bestfriend ko yan.. πŸ˜€
        haha! naghahanap ako ng kakampi dito sa wordpress.. πŸ˜€ haha!!!

        • Suckingbird Keller February 25, 2010 at 6:22 pm #

          kakampi mo nman ako ah! hindi pa ba ako sapat? ha? ha? 😦

          • yvarro February 25, 2010 at 11:07 pm #

            haha! Pag katapos mong babuyin ang pangalan ni Esmina sa post mo?… haha! nakow!.. “If friends like these?… well who needs an enemy?…” comment ka! sa post kow!… πŸ˜€

          • Suckingbird February 26, 2010 at 2:20 pm #

            bat di ko maview blog mo?

  2. aksoriyalmo February 26, 2010 at 3:10 am #

    Sometimes it work.
    Sometimes it isn’t.

    And time loss starts bending destiny. And ‘missing each other too much’ fades what was back then.

    • yvarro February 26, 2010 at 4:15 am #

      hihi.. πŸ˜€ relationship is a choice of two people.. πŸ˜€ yan ang sabi ng isa ko pang bespren.. : andami ko na palang bespren.. πŸ˜€

  3. soiebeans February 26, 2010 at 4:45 am #

    i miss you dearie. πŸ™‚

    • yvarro February 26, 2010 at 5:06 am #

      tanghali! bakit parang nauumay ako dito sa bahay mo OPS?.. hahaha!! alam ko nah!.. ang Cheeesssey! hahaha!!!

      • soiebeans February 26, 2010 at 5:19 am #

        hahahahaha. watibeeer, yvarro. hindi nakakaumay ang relationship namin ni keller. meganon? haha.

        • Suckingbird February 26, 2010 at 2:28 pm #

          ano daw?? di ko magets 2ng pnagsasabi ni yvarro.

          • soiebeans February 26, 2010 at 5:24 pm #

            yvarro, ano nangyari sa blog mo?

          • Yvarro February 27, 2010 at 2:22 am #

            deleted na blog ko. iwas stress… πŸ˜€ mga loko kase ibang bloggers jan eh! haha!

  4. hastydevil February 26, 2010 at 5:09 am #

    a true friend’s warm embrace is a healing balm for many of our aches. keep your friends close. πŸ™‚

    • Suckingbird February 26, 2010 at 2:28 pm #

      and keep your enemies closer πŸ™‚ tagline ata to ng survivor america hahaa

  5. Carizza February 26, 2010 at 10:40 am #

    I wonder why we think differently about friendship. :))

    You’re the first I know that thinks that way. πŸ™‚

    I’m intrigued.

    • Suckingbird February 26, 2010 at 2:29 pm #

      what is it you are intrigued about?

      • Carizza February 27, 2010 at 1:39 am #

        I’m intrigued about how you can have that kind of mindset. I mean, not minding not being with friends. While as for me, I’m wondering where my friends are, or if I do have any. :))

  6. ODDBLOOD February 26, 2010 at 7:20 pm #

    i also feel the same thing about friendship..usually, i am not the kind who makes my self nearer to my ‘friends,’ but i am already contented being needed when they need help or something..

    • Suckingbird February 27, 2010 at 1:52 pm #

      with friends, I just wanna have fun. πŸ™‚

  7. soiebeans February 27, 2010 at 8:05 am #

    yvarro, huwaaaaaayyyy? sayang naman! 😦

    • yvarro February 27, 2010 at 8:13 am #

      sikret.. πŸ™‚ pero nakikitira lang muna ako sa bloghay ni MD.. πŸ˜€ haha! tambay tambay lang muna.. πŸ˜€

      • Suckingbird February 27, 2010 at 1:51 pm #

        ows. if i know, ikaw si MD. pareho kaya kayo mgsulat πŸ™‚

        • soiebeans February 27, 2010 at 3:51 pm #

          meganon? MD? michael dyakson? haha. ako muna ang korni, nagpapahinga pa si yvarro e. weh. πŸ˜›

          • Suckingbird February 27, 2010 at 3:53 pm #

            MD for MEY DANON? hahaha. parang ngongo lang. πŸ™‚

          • Yvarro February 27, 2010 at 3:59 pm #

            Sows! Por Dios Por Soie Beans!!! kala mu ba mapipigilan nio akongmagkomento habang wala akong bahay?… FYI!.. nkikitulog po ako sa mga bahay nila MD aty kuya Kulisap… kaya hinid nio ako ganun kadaling mapapagpag!…

            at hindi ako korni!…

            kung korni ako…

            hindi bat… ang cheesy nio den ni OPS?…

            kung ganun, bagay pala tayung talo… para tayung…


          • Yvarro February 27, 2010 at 4:13 pm #

            MD.. bigger version ni MachongButiki: Machong Dragon… wahahaha!!!!

          • Suckingbird February 27, 2010 at 4:13 pm #


            in fairness effective ang CHEeSECORN.. akala ko CHEESESTICK sasabihin mo. nyhahahaha. DOERAMON joke.

          • Yvarro February 27, 2010 at 4:23 pm #

            hehehe… πŸ˜€

        • Yvarro February 27, 2010 at 3:56 pm #

          Hahaha! sige nah, paniwalaan mo na anggusto mong paniwalaan OPS… hahaha!!! masaya to… πŸ˜€ try niong kantuhin si MD… kung siya si Ako.. tignan naten… kung hindi dumugo ang utak ninyo kakahanap ng proof… πŸ˜€ hahaha! Staple friend ba topic nito?… hahaha!!! hindi ka ba naniniwala na pwedeng magkaroon ng staple friend?… hahaha!!!

          • soiebeans February 28, 2010 at 7:19 am #

            ang korni nga nitong si yvarro. suko na ako. haha. magpapakalayo-layo muna ako pansamantala. may misyon ako sa chile at haiti.

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